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Me, Myself, and I: 4 Solo Dates Ideas to Reconnect with Yourself

Updated: May 22

Twenty-one years ago, Queen Bey dropped a hit that stuck with me ever since. At just nine years old, I vibed to 'Me, Myself, and it was my anthem. Though I wasn't dealing with heartbreak or plotting revenge, Beyonce's words spoked to me: 'Me, myself, and I. That's all I got in the end. That's what I found out. And it ain't no need to cry. I took a vow that from now on, I'm gon' be my own best friend.' Those lyrics became more than a song; they became my motto, guiding me through self-love and independence.

As an adult, I'm still learning to live by that message. Sure, I've stumbled along the way, but it's all part of the journey, right? That's why I was all about treating myself for myself this past April. Join me as I share four solo date ideas aimed at reconnecting with the most important person in your life—you!

Cooking for Myself

There's something about cooking that just speaks to my soul. But let's be real, life's been crazy lately, and I've barely had the energy to boil water, let alone cook a meal for myself. I've been stuck in the fast lane, reaching for quick fixes like fast food and processed snacks just to keep up.

But then it hit me - I was missing out on more than just good food. I was missing out on joy, on nourishing my body and spirit. So, one Friday night, after a long week, I decided to treat myself to something special: my own version of Cajun Marry Me Chicken pasta.

I whipped out my phone, tapped away on the Walmart app, and had all my ingredients ready to go by the time I got home from work. As the aroma of spices filled my kitchen, I poured myself a glass of wine and settled in for a Pirates of the Caribbean marathon.

And let me tell you, that simple night in was exactly what I needed. It wasn't just about the food; it was about taking a moment to slow down, enjoy my company, and savor every bite.

So here's a tip: don't underestimate the power of cooking for yourself. It's not just about feeding your body; it's about feeding your soul. Take the time to treat yourself and indulge in a homemade meal's simple pleasures. You deserve it, sis.

Lunch for One

Starting my solo dating challenge meant finally visiting some of the restaurants I'd saved on Instagram but never got around to trying. To kick things off, I decided to take myself out to lunch at The Juicy Caboosy, a spot I'd been curious about for a while.

Walking into the restaurant, I felt a little apprehensive. Dining alone in a lively public setting was something I hadn't done in a long time. But once I settled into my seat, the experience became liberating. There were no distractions—just me, my thoughts, and the joy of exploring a new place on my own terms.

Dining alone at The Juicy Caboosy was a delightful experience. It was more than just a great meal; it was about finding comfort in my own company and realizing that solo adventures can be incredibly fulfilling. I left the restaurant feeling proud of myself for stepping out of my comfort zone and eager to continue my solo dating journey.

Movie Date

When you think of a classic date, the first thing that might come to mind is the movies. But did you know that catching a flick solo can be just as much fun—if not more? It’s all the best parts of movie night without worrying about who’s picking the film or sharing the popcorn. I absolutely love it, especially when I enjoy the whole theater.

The movie theater is my go-to. It has comfy red recliner chairs, a fantastic menu, and a laid-back vibe that makes you feel right at home. Pro tip: Hit the theater on a Tuesday. The tickets are cheaper, and they offer some food deals. Just don't tell anyone I sneak in my own gummy bears and Smartfood popcorn; it's tradition!

The first time I went to the movies alone, I’ll admit I was a bit anxious. I wondered if people would give me weird looks or if I’d feel lonely. But when I stepped inside and saw that I had the entire place to myself, I knew this was my kind of date. No awkward small talk, no sharing armrests—I was hooked.

So, consider a solo movie night if you're looking for a chill way to treat yourself. It's the perfect excuse to kick back, relax, and enjoy some quality "me" time. Plus, there's no one to judge you if you want to laugh too loudly or shed a tear during the previews. Enjoy!

Pamper Time

Ever heard the saying that a little self-care goes a long way? It's true. I used to be all about my skincare routine, but life got hectic, and I let it slide. Recently, though, I had a wake-up call. I realized it was time to start prioritizing myself again.

So, I decided to treat myself and headed to Marshalls to stock up on some essentials and maybe find a few new favorites. Let me tell you, that store is like a goldmine for self-care goodies. From essential oils to face masks, they had it all. As I strolled through the aisles, I couldn't help but feel excited about the prospect of indulging in a little me-time. And filling up my basket with treats? It felt like I was reclaiming a piece of myself.

With my stash of self-care products in hand, I'm ready to dive back into my routine. Because, at the end of the day, taking care of yourself is key.


As I wrap up my solo dating journey, I can't help but reflect on the valuable lessons I've learned along the way. From cooking up a storm in my kitchen to treating myself to a solo movie night, each experience has reminded me of the importance of self-love and independence.

So, whether you're single or in a relationship, I encourage you to take some time for yourself. Treat yourself to a solo date, indulge in some self-care, and remember that the most important relationship you'll ever have is the one you have with yourself. After all, as Queen Bey herself once said, "Me, myself, and I. That's all I got in the end."

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