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Thank You, Next

The lessons I’ve learned from every guy that has come and gone out of my life.

Valentine’s day is right around the corner, and I’m single once again! But this year, I’m happily single. The reason for my happiness is that I am genuinely embracing my singleness. I am enjoying the process, and I look forward to finding my true love (ugh… I sound like a Disney Princess! Lol). Since I’ve embraced this journey more, I’ve become more reflective. I never was a rock star at dating, and I’ve had a lot of FAILURES! I’ve learned to turn those failures into lessons. Here are the lessons I’ve learned from guys that have come and gone out of my life.

Mr. Snow Bunny

Mr. Snow Bunny was a high school crush. I was head over heels about him for four years (Don’t judge, we’ve all had that one crush)! I used to think that only my inner circle of friends knew about my crush, but looking back at it now, EVERYONE KNEW! Even teachers knew about my obsessive fixation. Throughout those three years, Mr. Snow Bunny didn’t notice me. I was like Casper, the friendly ghost to him. Let me tell you, I was heartbroken over someone who wasn’t even my boyfriend. But thank goodness for the GlOW UP Season! Mine came the summer of my junior year and my senior year was magic! Senior year was the moment when Mr. Snow Bunny started noticing me. But around Christmas time, reality hit me. My best friend was having a holiday party at her house. Everybody was bringing the significant other, and I finally had someone to bring. I was feeling myself because I was cute, and I finally had someone to bring to the party. So Mr. Snow Bunny came, and we had a good time.

This night was a special night for me because it was the night I got my first kiss. Mr. Snow Bunny and I were outside talking, and I knew in my head that he was going to try to kiss me. Sidenote, I was a very dramatic teenager. Therefore, I expected my first kiss to be magical, like Ariel from Little Mermaid. Spoiler alert, it was nothing like Little Mermaid. Instead, he gave me a little peck on the lips, and out of nowhere, a white bunny came hopping past us (Hence the name Mr. Snow Bunny)! A couple of seconds later, we heard a woman screaming someone’s name. As the voice got closer to us, a woman appeared in her bathrobe, asking if we had seen her Mr. Whisker (not sure if that was the bunny’s name). We told her which direction the bunny had gone, and we started to head back inside. My immediate thought of this experience was that I literally waited FOUR YEARS for this moment. I quickly learned a valuable lesson that the grass is not greener on the other side. I realized I didn’t really like him. I just really liked the idea of him. Mr. Snow Bunny taught me how to walk away from something I thought I wanted but realized I didn’t need.

Mr. Irrelevant

So Mr. Irrelevant was a guy I met my senior year of high school and stayed in contact with throughout college. We both went to different schools, so we didn’t see each other that much, except for one summer. We ended up spending the entire summer together. He would take me out on dates, and we would talk 24/7. All I can remember was laughing consistently around him and having a fantastic time. Mr. Irrelevant was actually really RELEVANT that summer for me. We would always talk, and he always had me out and about around the coast. As an introvert, hanging out with Mr. Irrelevant taught me how to get out of my comfort zone and to have fun!

Mr. Shoot Your Shot

Mr. Shoot Your Shot was my college crush. This man was FINE! I would always see him around campus but never say anything to him. I only had one experience with him. The school had an event in the ballrooms. The ballrooms were on the third level, and you had to take the escalators or the elevator down to get out of the building. The event had ended, and I was one of the last ones to leave. As I walked toward the escalator, Mr. Shoot Your Shot was heading to the escalator too. Like a gentleman, he let me get on first. When you typically get on an escalator, the person behind you usually gives you a couple of steps to create a little distance. This was not the case for Mr. Shoot Your Shot. He got on the next step after mine. We were so close to each other I could feel his breath on my neck (not really, but it was close lol). This situation worsened because we were the only ones on the escalator, and it felt like the longest ride down (ole boy knew what he was doing). I was so nervous, and my inner self was screaming at me, saying, “Turn around and say something!”

My introverted self couldn’t do it, and when we got to the second floor, I got off so quickly and walked to another exit so I wouldn’t have to go through two more escalator rides. As I was speed walking away, I told myself I would never miss another opportunity like that again. Fast forward six years later, that opportunity never came. I always kept thinking back about that escalator ride and what my life would have been like if I just had turned around and said, hey. I gathered up enough courage and slid in his DM’s. Nothing came from it, but we did have some tremendous conversations for a couple of years. Honestly, I was just grateful for the experience. Mr. Shot Your Shot taught me to go after what I wanted.

Mr. Pretty Eyes

Honestly, he didn’t teach me anything; I just liked looking at his eyes!


Well, there you have it! Like I stated before, I’m not a rockstar at dating, but I’m grateful for all the experiences. They molded me into the person that I am today! This wasn’t the list of all the guys I have dealt with. I do have some honorable mentions.

Honorable Mentions

  1. Mr. Honest - Taught me to be honest with my intentions.

  2. Mr. Old School - Taught me not to SETTLE!

  3. Mr. Do Right - Taught me that I was worthy of being pursued.

Thanks for reading, and like always, thanks for the support you give for Her Light. If this blog brought back some memories, drop below a lesson that one of your exes taught you! Stay tuned for more content.

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This was great!!!! I really enjoyed this message, and yes I had a Mr. Pretty Eyes and only dated him just for that… I’m single for Vday as well but it‘s ok… I love the idea of love! I can’t wait for you to meet your Prince Charming 😘😘😘

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