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The Power of Embracing Your Authentic Self: Lessons from “That Girl”

Being “that girl” has been a trend in pop culture and social media for years. It began as a term used to describe confident, independent women who don't conform to societal norms or expectations. The term gained popularity on social media platforms like Instagram and Twitter, where users began sharing posts and captions featuring the phrase "that girl" to express confidence, self-assurance, and independence.

Today, the "that girl" trend has evolved into a cultural movement, inspiring women to embrace their unique qualities, pursue their passions, and live life on their own terms. It has become a celebration of confidence, individuality, and self-love, encouraging women to be proud of who they are and embrace their own version of "that girl" style.

There are many versions of being “that girl.” The girl killing her career goals is “that girl.” The queen with inner peace and healing from her past trauma is “that girl.” The sister who is not afraid to step out and try new things is “that girl.” The stories of the many versions of “that girl” can go on for hours! For me, 2023 is the year of being “that girl.” For the longest, I’ve chosen to be the girl who works behind the curtain. I was comfortable letting people see my work results without letting them know the person responsible for the work. I wanted to be unseen and unnoticed. I dimmed my own light because it made others feel more comfortable around me. I quickly learned that this way of living was not a sustainable solution. Being unnoticed may have felt easier in the short term, but it led to resentment, dissatisfaction, and even self-doubt over time. This is why I have chosen to be “That Girl,” the girl who refuses to dim her light to make others comfortable. To achieve this version of “that girl,” I’m learning to live by a few basic guidelines to avoid dimming my own light. I want to share them with you:

Keep God First

When you keep God at the center of your life, everything else falls into place. Keeping God first in every aspect of your life can bring a sense of purpose, meaning, and direction. I put God first in my life not because my parents told me to, not because a church said to, but because I've experienced how awesome He is!

Embrace your uniqueness:

Recognize your unique skills, talents, and qualities that make you who you are. Embrace them and celebrate your individuality.

Stay confident:

Be confident in your abilities, and don't let others make you doubt yourself. Remember that you have worked hard to get where you are, and you deserve to shine.

Surround yourself with supportive people:

Surround yourself with people who appreciate and support you for who you are. These people will uplift and encourage you to be your best self.

Practice self-care:

Taking care of yourself is crucial in ensuring you don't dim your light. Make time for activities that make you happy and prioritize your mental and physical health.

Share your knowledge:

Be bold and share your knowledge and expertise with others. Helping others and sharing your skills can be fulfilling and rewarding.

Set boundaries:

Setting boundaries is crucial in ensuring that you don't dim your light. Learn to say no to things that don't align with your values or goals.


Remember that you have a unique light that can never be replicated. Don't be afraid to let it shine and become “That Girl”! Thanks for reading, and like always, thanks for the support you give for Her Light. If this blog inspired you, drop in the comments what’s your version of “That Girl! ” Stay tuned for more content and shine brightly!

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Thank you for letting us into your experience on your journey of achieving your version of “that girl”! I love the guidelines you’ve been putting into place and I’m excited to see you shine in the spotlight!!

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